I've Tried Everything to Save My Marriage - Are You
Sure?
By
Dena Tilson
Have you said the words, "I've tried everything to
save my marriage. I don't know what else to do"? Even
though you have tried what you believe is everything,
the problem may be that the things you have tried are
all the wrong ways to try to save your marriage.
There are approaches that work and approaches that
don't work. Unfortunately, when trying to save their
marriage, most people use the wrong approach. So, lets
take a look at some things that many people will try
that just don't work.
You may have tried convincing your spouse of the
error of their ways, which quickly turns into an
argument. No one likes to have their faults pointed out.
Even though what you are saying may be 100% the truth.
At this point in your marriage your spouse, does not
want to hear you pointing out all the ways they have
failed you and your marriage. So, quit blaming. It only
drives your spouse further away.
You may have tried to gain your spouses sympathy by
resorting to tears or by begging and pleading. In the
first place, sympathy is not what you need from your
spouse, you need their respect and their love. Also,
what you didn't realize is when your spouse is
considering divorce, they have usually emotionally
checked out of the marriage. Begging, pleading and tears
don't gain sympathy, they usually gain disgust. Your
spouse will only see you as weak and needy
You may have tried manipulating your spouse. This is
never a good idea. Manipulation is just a thinly veiled
attempt at control and of trying to get what you
want at all costs. A good marriage is built on trust and
manipulation is a sure trust killer.
Pointing our faults, trying to gain sympathy or
manipulation are all surefire ways to push your spouse
further away. Have you been guilty of any of these wrong
approaches?
Wouldn't you like to be able to say, "I'm sure I've
tried everything to
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